Consequences of domestic violence.
Dr. Wolfe began his discussion on the consequences of domestic violence by discussing the “children’s paradox.” Children are often torn between a sense of loyalty to their parents and a sense of fear and apprehension in the face of domestic violence. They want to stop the violence but they also want to belong to a family; affection and attention may coexist with violence and abuse. Ironically, children often perceive abuse as a short-term act but the intensity of violence tends to increase over time. There are a number of consequences for children exposed to domestic violence. Unfortunately, most of what is known comes from children in shelters, thus limiting our ability to generalize. Reactions to domestic violence vary and change over the developmental life course. For instance, infants and toddlers may experience listlessness, failure to thrive, and problems with trust while preschool children may react through behaviors such as aggression, cruelty to animals, or clinging. For elementary school-aged children, it is a critical time for learning how to relate to women. Thus, witnessing abuse during this time can foster disrespect for females and reinforce sex role stereotypes. Experiencing domestic violence in adolescence may not only influence school achievement and self-esteem, but also provide the example for dating violence. The effect of domestic violence on children can differ by gender. A man’s history of violence is a more powerful predictor of a violent relationship than is a woman’s childhood history of witnessing violence. Girls appear to be more able to avoid the domestic violence experienced by their mothers, but if they do end up in such a relationship, they are more likely to tolerate it. Factors contributing to resilience include a strong relationship with a positive, caring adult, community safe havens, and certain characteristics of the child including intelligence, self-esteem, and access to resources.
David Wolfe, Ph.D., The University of Western Ontario.
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